The war is over.
I find that I have been encouraging others around me about the benefits of surrender. What is the answer to mind numbing difficulties? Surrender. Problems beyond your control? Surrender.
Let God have your troubles and let His will be done. Surrender is different from defeat. Defeat is a miserable state when you do not know what to do next nor do you care. There is no peace in defeat. Surrender is when you say “I’m done, Lord. I‘ll get out of the way and let you handle it.”
When you wave the white flag of surrender, the war is over.
I am very good at encouraging others about surrender. I am not always so good at taking my own advice. I know that to surrender is easier said than done. By nature, I am a tenacious person. I like to ‘think outside the box’ and ‘never give up’. There are probably many more clichés for this side of my personality. Stubborn may be the best word. It is hard to surrender when it is your nature to dig in and fight. Surrender in the midst of chaos and tribulation can be frightening. It is much easier to think of oneself as being in control.
This delusion of control can work for a lot of people until something happens that shatters the myth. My sham of control was shattered when my sister was diagnosed with a fatal cancer at the age of 28. How do I fight that? How do I fight when it isn’t even my fight? For all my stubbornness, I cannot determine the number of breaths of a loved one. In all honesty, I thought I had surrendered the situation to the Lord. Of course, I wanted a good outcome; I wanted the Lord to spare her life. Surrender is easy when you expect that things will turn out the way you want them.
True surrender is when you want the Lord’s will to be done and you actually mean it.
God didn’t change the outcome, He changed my heart. When the end of her life came at the age of 31, I knew it was God’s mercy. As I held her hand as she passed away, I was thankful that He had spared her life. He spared her from 4 years of pain and misery. He did not leave her with us here, she just went to live with Him.
Really, all my fighting or even my surrender didn’t change the outcome. It does change how I live with the outcome. Resting in the knowledge and acceptance of the Lord’s will is much better than feeling the sting of death or defeat.
My stubborn nature is something I still have to address. When I feel that I have to dig in and fight, I have to remind myself that it isn’t even my fight. Any problem that I may face, God has already has conquered it.
“These things I have spoken unto you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33